Thursday, May 21, 2015











Collar    
                    
a summer visit long ago
brother, sis and nephews
“puppies! we have puppies uncle rob!”
twirling, falling, running, underfoot fur

one often apart from the brood
walking around a corner, two brown eyes survey me
white band of fur encircles neck
“we named him Collar” nephews declare

another moment
another corner I turn
two brown eyes
circle of white

“he chooses you” she said
“take him when you go”
how can I with condo hip car slick exec?
I have no time for fur

two brown eyes
they spoke to me
wake up!
think how good it will be

papers, rules, logistics
weeks later
jetset fur takes flight with smelly shirt
tiny cage, alone, plane noise: fear

new home: comfy cage, toys in condo chic
my queen bed not in plan
but best laid plans…
brown eyes wake with me

friends say he cries when I am gone
eyes fill with joy on my return
face to fur and muzzle
wet hello


bouncy walks along the country lane
darts into woods and reappears in distance
his head turns down and rockets to me
joy joy joy

over years old companions we become
best friends through thin
no wavering through thick
without condition

addiction creeps into my home
silent deadly footfalls
on knees I weep to god
Collar whines and paces; unsure of what to do

lonely nights in fear
danger echoes within painful days
my head against the breathing fur
comfort mine to take

coming out the other side
bouncy walks re-appear
monsters once in bed with me
go to sleep

time reaches out to my friend
his waking seems so hard
walking stiff and hurt
brown eyes reach out to me

before our last car trip
a last glance at bowl and leash
many last time moments
it’s time for Collar to rest

my face to moist nose
my arms embrace
my god
my dog


Friday, May 8, 2015

ampere premiere

daytime at canopy
on earth night tide washes over me
twilight between
silent sentries stand by the hundreds
light streaks through

path worn, firm
soft hard under my shoes
earth, stick, stone, stick, earth
electric nerve
from toe to brain

I spy leaf, moss, grass, needles
more shades than webster knows
apple, hunter, india, mint,
iris to grey matter

they all live in me
neuroelectric  pictures in my head








Friday, April 24, 2015

Just today

Who knows what mysteries lurk deep in the heart of a writer, therapist, paramedic, accountant nerd. I sure don't. The more I dive into the mysteries of my clients, the more I realize what little I know about myself.

I've been busily studying Imago Relationship Therapy with it's theory of unconscious desires and expectations people have of each other. Sometimes I think it's a miracle that anyone stays together ever!

So what's going on in the inaccessible portion of MY brain?

Don't know so I guess I'll focus on the fact that spring is actually here with summer not far behind.  This place (North Idaho) dramatically transforms in the summer to a kind of paradise. I takes an annual long hard winter once a year to see and appreciate that.

This last winter was one of the toughest I'v ever waded through so I'm really looking forward to the changes warm weather may bring.

The Room With Many Windows

It was our TV room.  The focal point was a 1959 Zenith portable black and white TV that had the annoying habit of losing its vertical hold thus making the picture flip over and over, making it un-watchable until someone got up to play with the “vertical hold dial” until it became stable.  The TV sat on a low table and was next to the door that led out into the back yard that was filled with the promise of adventure in the woods and undiscovered neighborhoods. A giant maroon couch sat opposite; somehow garnered from my grandparents.  I remember it being big enough to hold myself along with two brothers and two sisters.

One wall was filled with double-pane windows, each of which opened with a crank.  I once broke one of those expensive windows with a championship-like 3 wood from the far reaches of the back yard.  It seemed impossible that the house was at risk at that distance, but my 7 year old brain was wrong.
Along the opposite wall were light colored wood bookshelves with cabinets beneath which contained my entire collection of toys including beloved GI Joes and a matchbox car collection.  One shelf contained a dark red and blue World Book Encyclopedia circa 1950 or so.  Many a school assignment was completed using that particular resource.  An encyclopedia scent would emanate from pages that had maybe never been opened before. The more often visited pages smelled of peanut butter and jelly.

Next to those book shelves was the best part of the room.  It was a traditional single hung sash pane window that opened to…not the great outdoors…but the living room.  Yes, an outside window stood inexplicably between our TV room and the living room. I used to open it every once in a while just because I could and I thought it was really cool.


I was probably 30 before it occurred to me to ask my father about the window.  He told me when the house was being built the TV room was meant to be a screened porch and he changed his mind and asked for a regular room.  The contractor told him the window was already framed and my dad said “What the hell, leave it in.” That made it even more cool.

Saturday, March 21, 2015

I met a real Freedom Rider today: Max Pavesic


He was a Freedom Rider in 1961 and he "and 14 others, black and white, held their ground in a “whites only” waiting room in a train station until they were charged with a breach of peace.
Nonviolent but defiant, the Freedom Riders were hauled off to a maximum security prison and held there near death-row cells for the misdemeanor crime." (Source Bonner County Daily Bee)

Friday, March 20, 2015

I admire Harville Hendrix.  he is founder of Imago therapy which is a widely accepted modality for couples therapy.  I am a believer in his theory, but that's not the sole reason for my admiration.

Harville Hendrix was a professor teaching couples therapy to psychology students when he was divorced.  In fact, her went from the courthouse to teach a class. Here he was, an expert in the field of partner counseling, in a failed marriage.  As it turns out his students knew where he was and greeted him with compassion.  A discussion about relationships ensued where each student shared personal details about past and present relationships.

At the end of class a student asked him what keeps couples together.  He answered: I have absolutely no idea.

That is why I hold him in such high esteem.  When a person regarded as an expert can say those words in the context of their expertise great powers are unleashed.  Having the humility to question ones self and to say so out loud is a great strength. Removing ego and opening the door to new ideas is where true innovation is born.

Over the next year he developed Imago Therapy and subsequently changed the lives of thousands of people.

Sunday, March 15, 2015

So sometimes I'm an idiot.  Not a lot, but I'm entirely capable. This weekend I whipped up a major IRS/ Tax issue for myself.  I had nightmares about it - I was actually eaten by a whale.

Only a day or so after I blog about being annoyed with people that use the internet to support their crazy views...I do EXACTLY that!

I calmed down, checked my sources - found better ones and it turns out it was a false alarm.

Not only an idiot but hypocrite as well.

Cheers!